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Life is stressful. Whether it’s a recent loss or ongoing issues, life takes a toll. It’s hard not to blame ourselves, to break away from the same old ways of doing things, and to understand how to move past painful experiences.

Even positive events (like going to college or graduate school, graduation, a new job, house, or relationship) can cause stress as our lives change and get busier.

Too often, we carry on as if nothing hard is happening, or we move on to accomplishing “the next big thing” rather than acknowledging where we’ve been.

Therapy can offer a space for you to slow down, receive support and guidance, and re-engage with the presence of mind and heart.

 

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”
~ Mary Oliver

Appreciating Sensitivity

ARE YOU A HIDDEN SENSITIVE?

(I purposely put that in all caps!). 😉

It’s time for the sensitive people of the world to step forward and claim their — our — rightful place at the table of honor!

Others can be there, too, of course! Inclusiveness is a value for many of us sensitive people!

It’s time for us to speak up, even as we claim qualities create vulnerability. These qualities also create depth, meaning, beauty, and power.

Can you relate?

  • Do you feel deeply, cry easily, and turn red when performing in front of others?
  • Have you worried about what people thought of you and cared a lot about their feelings?
  • Are you naturally intuitive?
  • Do you feel refreshed and revitalized in nature?
  • Have you been intermittently inspired, vibrant, and passionate, and then overwhelmed by your excitement or fear of taking the next step?
  • Do you have a secret playful side that not everyone sees?

Yes. These are all traits of sensitivity!

HAVE YOU FELT DIFFERENT?

So many sensitive people believe there’s something is wrong with them, instead of knowing they are sensitive!

Sensitivity is a temperament difference, (thanks to Dr. Elaine Aron’s amazing research) which makes it easy for sensitive people to access information through our senses, including our intuition.

But, we’re finely tuned. Like a tuning fork.

We easily pick up other people’s or animals’ emotions or energies in places, and then we might think it’s our own!

This confusion and overflow of energy can make it difficult to feel centered in our own bodies or make decisions.

This is especially true since we don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings and conflict feels hard to our senses.

Until we know how to set clear our energy and set good boundaries, we might feel drained, heavy, deeply emotional, or sluggish in everyday life.

Have you judged yourself for feeling so much? 

Feeling deeply hasn’t always been positively regarded in our cognitively-focused society.

So many people (including me) went to therapy, thinking there was something wrong, only to be given a label of anxiety.

SENSITIVITY IS A WAY OF BEING

If I could say one thing, it’s that being sensitive is not a disorder. It’s a way of being. And, a way of relating to ourselves and the world. 

I wish this was a well-known fact.

While I was growing up, well-meaning family members often told me to “toughen up” or “stop being so sensitive.”

Did you ever hear that?

I was often asked how I’d be able to “make it” being so sensitive.

In fact, many of the traits my relatives loved were part of my sensitivity!

Though I also worried about being tough enough to make it, I later realized that this judgment wasn’t based on my own value system.

I wanted to be strong, not tough or rigid.

After a long time, I began to appreciate the hidden beauty of being sensitive, especially as I learned to clear the energy and find my truth and ground.

And, I came to know that what I care about is being true to myself, expressing who I am at my core, and helping other sensitive women do the same!

APPRECIATING THE STRENGTHS OF SENSITIVITY

There are so many strengths to being sensitive, including:

* Empathy * insight *creativity/inspiration *appreciation of beauty (especially in nature) *strength  *compassion *self-awareness, and, * bringing passion and quality to everything you do!

And, when people compliment you on these traits, they’re really complimenting you on your sensitivity! How awesome is that?! 🙂 

What do YOU appreciate about being sensitive?  Feel free to share here! 

The more we share who we truly are, the more we create a more compassionate, creative, inspired, vibrant world that values sensitivity! 

And, if you would like to receive a complimentary session to become more fully yourself as a sensitive person, you can click here. <3

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Heather Schwartz is an empowerment coach, intuitive, and teacher for sensitive women who want to release “anxiety” and come home to their centered, inspired, optimistic, and powerful selves!

#sensitivity #appreciation #empathy #understanding #difference #temperament #awareness

Expressing Yourself + A Reiki Video!
“I wish I could just get out of my own way, express myself, and just feel comfortable with my writing. But, I always worry about what other people are thinking, and then I obsess over the grammar, the words, and the images…

“I’m so frustrated at myself! Why can’t I just write?! I want to put myself out there! I have all these ideas, and I feel called to share what’s really in my heart. I just can’t get past my mind.”

Leigh sighed. The look of fatigue was still in her face.
Have you been where Leigh is? I know I have. 
As sensitive people, we tend to focus so hard on the details or what other people think, that we dampen our spirits! 
We forget the joy of creating: feeling ALIVE in our hearts and letting our voices be heard! 
It’s amazing! And, when people get it and us, wow! 
Our work, as sensitive people, is really about trusting ourselves.
Knowing that what we are saying and feeling matters, and letting others into our world rather than trying to control everything.
It’s about believing that our creation is close enough to our vision to share it, and let other people in! 
If you’d like help trusting yourself and opening your voice, I’d love to help you!
You can sign up for a complimentary 30-minute session here. 
And, to support you in opening your voice, the power within you, I created this reiki video.

When we are willing to offer our perfectly imperfect, beautiful, and vulnerably alive passions to the world, we create a better world!
We show that difference doesn’t have to be scary, that love and trust are more powerful! 
Just so you know: reiki is a powerful yet gentle energy healing tool. Some people notice a gentle warmth. Others, a buzzing or vibration. Some notice feeling more loved or loving. Others notice nothing at all.
I hope it will bring you all the release, clarity, and nourishment you want to set yourself free!
Now, more than ever, we need to bring our light and hearts as sensitive and soulful women to the world! It’s needed! 
From my heart to yours, 
Heather

#HSP #sensitivity #trust #reiki #love #confidence #belief #power #calling #women

Debunking 3 Common Myths about Sensitive Women and Public Speaking

Does public speaking freak you out?

For many sensitive women, just the idea of being on the spot, forced to think while feeling, while being observed, creates sweaty palms!

I know it used to for me, before I learned how switch from freeze to flow! And, now, I love it!

And, in order to enjoy it, it’s important to be clear on what works.

What I’m going to share with you today are 3 common myths of public speaking, specific to being a sensitive person.

The last one is my personal favorite because it highlights what we sensitive women bring to the table and to the world, which everyone is interested in! I’ll give you a hint: our feelings! Feelings are great motivators; they call us to listen, to be aware, and to connect meaningfully with others. When in balance with ourselves, sensitive women have so much to offer the world!

Here are the myths. And, if it moves you, share this article, sign up for my free newsletter (you get my complimentary 5 Gifts of Sensitivity article, too!), and/or share your thoughts. I’d love to hear them!

Myth: Just focus on what you’re saying, and you’ll be fine.

Truth: Focusing only on what you’re saying, when you’re a feeling-oriented person creates more anxiety because of all the energy you’re spending on blocking your feelings and demanding that you be in control. It also creates really dry, boring talks! Emotion gives speech life!

2. Myth: Just focus on a friendly face in the room. Maybe someone you know.

Truth: Sensitive people can get all hung up on facial expressions and what they mean. If you’re looking to the audience to support you, you might get focused there, rather than on your talk. If you’re dependent on someone smiling, it puts all the control outside of yourself! And, if you know the person, you might feel more anxious!

Instead, I teach a method to help people find their center, feel their vitality, and speak with passion and power! You can find out more here!

You can also sign up for my newsletter with uplifting and powerful tips to access the best parts of being sensitive, as well as upcoming events. You’ll receive my complimentary article, “5 Ways to Access the Gifts of Your Sensitivity,” when you do!

3. Myth: If you just relax and stop being so anxious, you’ll give a great talk!

Truth: Trying to stop who you are and how you’re feeling creates more of what you don’t want.

Anxiety gives us energy, interest, and enthusiasm!

It is our life force energy and, when we let it flow, powerful, exciting things happen! Blocking it creates rifts within us and distracts us. But, when we welcome it, a clearing happens!

We find our ground and center within the heightened energy, like the center within a storm, and everything slows down.

Did you know? Anxiety is registered in our bodies the same way as excitement. Our bodies can’t tell the difference! It’s our minds that tell us what we should believe about our experiences of short breath, high energy, excitement, and fast thoughts!

So, part of success in giving a talk is not fighting what you’re feeling, but, allowing your natural life force energy to flow!

See anxiety as a welcome addition of passion about your great talk, and watch it diminish and leave the best parts: the energy!

For more exciting suggestions on anxiety and presentations, stay tuned! I’ll be sharing more tips in the coming months! ~ Heather

Overthinking? Change Your Mood in 5 Easy Steps
How to Interrupt Overthinking & Start Feeling Calm Again

confident woman

Overthinking is a very common experience for Highly Sensitive people and Empaths who are prone to having high standards, caring a lot, feeling a lot, and noticing all the details and depth of interactions.

Sound like you?

Excessive planning, thinking, rehearsing or replaying conversations often comes from a wish to do things well, to be understood, (or to understand something), and a feeling that life happens too quickly.

But getting stuck in your head can leave you feeling down, unproductive, anxious, empty and upset, without any resolution!

Here are 5 ways to move beyond the cycle and back into life!

1. Experience the difference.

Acknowledge that you’d like to have a different experience than what you’re feeling right now.

  • Go for different as opposed to good.
  • When you’re down or upset, it can be too big a stretch to try to feel good or happy or even calm.
  • Ask yourself to be open to having a different experience. Who knows what it will be yet? 😉

2. Try 3 rounds of Loving Kindness Meditation (& expect nothing).

May I be safe. (take a breath)

May I be peaceful. (take a breath)

May I be at ease. (take a breath)

May I be happy. (take a breath)

  • Do 3 rounds.
  • Expect nothing, just let yourself feel.
  • Give yourself full permission to be where you’re at.
  • Notice what comes.
  • See how you breathe, and what feelings emerge.
  • Expect nothing. When you’re a perfectionist, you already have HUGE demands of yourself. This exercise sets you free to just be you.
  • Give yourself FULL permission just to BE. 🙂

3. Do something physically active that brings you comfort.

Move to change your feelings.

 

4. Notice what you do like in your environment.

  • When you’re feeling upset, it’s easy to focus intently on what’s wrong within or around you. Let’s shift that!
  • Don’t push; just allow.
  • Be curious and open — this shifts your feelings.

5. Choose 1 list of 5 Things:

  • Name 5 things to be grateful for (and really feel them!) OR
  • Compliment 5 people OR
  • Choose uplifting words for the first 5 letters of the alphabet (e.g. Altruism, beautiful, creativity, delight!, everlasting). Feel those words!

Now, assess and return to #1, is something different?  How are you feeling?

In Summary

For most Highly Sensitive people, a balance between thinking, feeling, and action is at the heart of well-being.

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If you’d like personalized help with being more present and moving beyond overthinking, feel free to contact me for a session, and if you appreciated this article, please share it with friends!

#mindfulness #overthinking #worry #HSP #Empath #presence #lovingkindness #acceptance #love #empowerment

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Dr. Heather Schwartz is a coach and guide with a 20-year background in mindfulness and psychology, and who works with  Highly Sensitive women & Empaths on their energy so they can trust themselves and share their gifts with the world!

Are you a deeply feeling, optimistic, and empathic woman who wants to feel good about yourself and your sensitivity?
  • Are you spending a lot of time and energy just trying to feel balanced, happy, and like yourself?
  • Do you wish you could connect and do the things you love without feeling so much anxiety or exhaustion?
  • Are you a life-long learner who would like to stop pushing or judging yourself, and start accepting yourself instead?
  • Would you like to get over the fear of making mistakes and take necessary risks to live your most joyful, inspired, and meaningful life? 
When you’re a sensitive, deeply-feeling person, emotions can feel like big waves rather than peaceful waters.

That’s because being sensitive means being deeply attuned, like a tuning fork or a radio tower, picking up frequencies.

If you don’t know how to set clear boundaries, release energy, and replenish yourself, you’re going to feel drained, anxious, or just not like yourself.

You might judge yourself harshly because you care so deeply.
Seeking comfort or “answers” from other people who are not sensitive, means missing out on the resources within you!
The irony is that the feelings are not us. They don’t define our worthiness or dignity. They’re just experiences passing through.
And, when we learn how to clear them, we find our Truth: the powerhouse of understanding, joy, love, peace, strength, and potential within us.
We come home to ourselves.

And, that’s an amazing experience!
“After working with Heather, I feel more grounded, calm, and at the same time lighter on my feet. It was deep and transformative! She helped me visualize my problems in new ways and see solutions I couldn’t see before. Her gentle, sure guidance opened up new ideas, a new sense of stability and new pathways in my brain.” ~ Faith H. Portland, OR. 
I know what it’s like to wonder if things are ever going to get easier, and to wonder how to be sensitive in a world that moves so quickly.
Because of my experience as a sensitive woman, I crafted tools and practices specific to sensitivity — resources I wish I’d had sooner — which I hope will bring you ease, comfort, and freedom in being truly yourself! 
If you’re ready to greater ease, joy, and authentic confidence, I offer a complimentary Illumination Session where we can talk about what you hope for yourself and how to create it! 

 

“Let nothing dim the light that shines from within” ~ Maya Angelou
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” ~ Anaiis Nin